Welcome! I’m Jean Ann Duckworth, founder & director of Simple Joy. We have many exciting things planned for you in 2019, including the launch of our GraceSpace social network for women & our Sisters of Simple Joy small groups. We are working to develop programs & materials for women to access no matter where they live. Features include: Online classes;…
Category: Guilty Mommy Guide 2 Life
The Guilty Mommy Back-to-School Bible Study
Patience & Persistence Good Habits Begin Early “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6 NIV Patience and persistence. These are the tools parents need in order to develop good habits in their children. Unfortunately, nagging & short tempers are the tools we use most…
The Problem with Guilt Part 6: Guilt Likes the Dark
Guilt thrives the more we keep it to ourselves. guilt begins deep within us & likes to stay there. The longer we keep it locked up, the more it grows & multiplies. We feel shame when we haven’t done anything wrong.
The Problem with Guilt Part 5: We Go It Alone
A guilt trip is a lonely journey. We rarely take a companion along with us. Those around us may suffer because of our guilt but they aren’t able to ease it. We are unable to share our burden with others so they might carry part of it for us.
The Problem with Guilt Part 4: We Overcompensate
We feel guilty. We think we’ve done something wrong. We try to make it right. When we can’t make it right, we overreact. One of the ways we overreact is to overcompensate. In other words, we try to make things up. We can’t make it right, so we work to make it better. Oh, Boy!
The Problem with Guilt Part 3: We Overreact
Let’s review: we say we feel guilty. Our brains process guilt with doing something wrong. If we have done something wrong, then we must work to make it right. Unfortunately, we haven’t REALLY done anything wrong so we find it’s impossible to make things right. Out of frustration, we simply try harder. And that is when we overreact.
The Problem with Guilt Part 2: We Try to Make it Right
If we think we are guilty, then we believe we have done something wrong. When we do something wrong, we try to make it right. We make a mistake, we correct it. We break something, we replace it. We damage something, we pay to have it repair. These are all very cut & dry, very black & white. Unfortunately, most…
The Problem with Guilt Part 1: Guilt Implies We’ve Done Something Wrong!
I LOVE Law & Order. I watch it on one of the local stations every Wednesday & Thursday. I watch other crime shows as well but Law & Order allows me to see the police do their job & the prosecutors do their job. So I see courtroom action every episode. Most episodes, at some point, a judge asks the…
The Guilty Mommy Guide 2 Life Lesson 1: Stop Calling It Guilt!
I like watching courtroom programs like Law & Order & Perry Mason. One thing they have taught me is the meaning of guilt. In my opinion, guilt implies a misdeed has been done. Sometimes, such as on these shows, the misdeed is a terrible crime, someone has broken the law. At other times, people have done something bad that may…