Today, we are celebrating my husband’s birthday. I have printed out a photo of the bicycling helmet he wants rather than buying it because I want him to get the right size. Our daughter & I have been busy so, before we head to a local restaurant for dinner, we are stopping at one of my hubby’s favorite stores to pick up one of his favorite libations. Our daughter, Katy enjoys picking out a different beer for her dad each special occasion. She know nothing about beer. Neither do I. I told her I pick the one with the best label. So far, this approach has never failed me!
Then, on to dinner. Nothing fancy. Just a local restaurant that we enjoy. We like to sit in the lounge, The Tiki Room. I haven’t baked a cake although I might pick up some cupcakes when we stop at the store on the way home.
Some of you may be shocked by our casual attitude towards birthdays. Yes, birthdays for this is the way we celebrate all three of our birthdays. Working in a church for so many years, a church that had a huge production (as in play) during Christmas & Easter made it tough for us to do much more than that. My birthday is 3 days after Christmas, Mr. D’s birthday is today & Katy’s is the beginning of April. All three more likely than not, fell during the run of the plays. And over the years, we just went with it.
Sure, there was a time when I tried to make birthdays big & elaborate because everyone said that’s what you were supposed to do. Well, I was only stressing myself out when I did that. And I learned quickly when I was stress, no one had a good time. I also found that all those people that wanted to tell me how things were “supposed” to be done never pitched in to help prepare or pay for those elaborate plans. So if I had to do the work & we had to foot the bill, we were going to do things the way we liked!
Do you feel pressured to celebrate special occasions & holidays a specific way, a way that causes you stress & costs you WAY too much money? Are you afraid to have a simple celebration, a celebration that allows YOU to enjoy yourself which in turn allows the whole family to enjoy themselves? I gave up worrying what people would think a long time ago. I gave it up right after I realized they were going to think whatever they wanted no matter what I did! Instead, I decided to do what works well for me & my family!
What works for you? Sometimes, we don’t even celebrate a birthday on the actual day! If everyone is busy, we spread the celebration out over several days. When it’s my birthday, I want the celebration to go on for days. Another good reason to keep it so simple it expectations. In the past, when I tried to create the “perfect” event, it never seemed to live up to my expectations. I always ended up disappointed. Tonight, I know our family is going to have a blast! And in a few weeks, we do it again for Katy’s birthday. And we’re going to have a blast then.
Next special event, give yourself a gift by keeping things simple enough that you can enjoy yourself. And if anyone complains, have them host the next special occasion! I find that quiets them down real fast!