My grandmother made this salad for dinner guests. It is light & tasty. I LOVE it!
Boy, that sounds rather selfish & I don’t mean it that way at all. I like to keep my life simple. When things get complicated, usually because I have complicated them, the stress becomes tremendous. The more stress, the less productive, less creative I become. Not good! I like being productive & creative so I try to keep my life as low stress as I can & this means keeping it SO simple!
Simple does not mean I have to settle for things, settle for something that doesn’t quite meet my needs. This often means holding out & searching long & hard until I find just what I want. How many times have I given up my search & settled for something less than what I want, only to be disappointed down the road when the item doesn’t live up to my expectations.
Now, I honestly don’t set my expectations way up high, so high that nothing could possibly live up to those expectations. I just want what I want. Let me give you an example:
That’s my bike at the top of the post. My hubby gave it to me for Christmas a few years ago. I LOVE my bike. The style, the color, the retro look, the flames. I love everything about is. When I first go my bike, I didn’t want to wear a helmet. My bike is cool & I thought a helmet was soooo uncool. Unfortunately, or fortunately depending on how you look at it, hubby is a lifetime member of the League of American Bicyclists. He know the statistics. The majority of fatalities among bike riders are caused by head injuries. It’s a long way down to the curb when you fall. Helmets help protect riders.
So, I had to wear my helmet & I did. Then, my helmet fell apart. The padding went to pieces. So, my hubby & daughter gave me a new helmet for Christmas this past year. Well, they gave me a photo of a helmet & told me I should find a helmet I liked. The search was on. I have a cool retro looking bike. I didn’t want a modern streamlined helmet. The two just didn’t go together. So I searched. Hubby searched. We went to the bike shop & nothing. I was ready to settle for second best but I knew I would not be happy. I just wouldn’t like it. So I kept searching & hubby remained patient because he wanted me to be happy.
I finally found the helmet. No, correction. I found THE helmet. It is just what I wanted. We ordered it from the bike shop & before I knew it, I had the helmet I wanted.
You don’t have to be demanding or rude. You also shouldn’t have to settle for second best. Keep looking until you find THE one! Whether it’s a helmet or a job or a spouse, there is the perfect one for you if you just keep patiently looking. Believe me, it’s well worth it!
In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (Philippians 1:4-6 NIV)
Today, we are celebrating my husband’s birthday. I have printed out a photo of the bicycling helmet he wants rather than buying it because I want him to get the right size. Our daughter & I have been busy so, before we head to a local restaurant for dinner, we are stopping at one of my hubby’s favorite stores to pick up one of his favorite libations. Our daughter, Katy enjoys picking out a different beer for her dad each special occasion. She know nothing about beer. Neither do I. I told her I pick the one with the best label. So far, this approach has never failed me!
Then, on to dinner. Nothing fancy. Just a local restaurant that we enjoy. We like to sit in the lounge, The Tiki Room. I haven’t baked a cake although I might pick up some cupcakes when we stop at the store on the way home.
Some of you may be shocked by our casual attitude towards birthdays. Yes, birthdays for this is the way we celebrate all three of our birthdays. Working in a church for so many years, a church that had a huge production (as in play) during Christmas & Easter made it tough for us to do much more than that. My birthday is 3 days after Christmas, Mr. D’s birthday is today & Katy’s is the beginning of April. All three more likely than not, fell during the run of the plays. And over the years, we just went with it.
Sure, there was a time when I tried to make birthdays big & elaborate because everyone said that’s what you were supposed to do. Well, I was only stressing myself out when I did that. And I learned quickly when I was stress, no one had a good time. I also found that all those people that wanted to tell me how things were “supposed” to be done never pitched in to help prepare or pay for those elaborate plans. So if I had to do the work & we had to foot the bill, we were going to do things the way we liked!
Do you feel pressured to celebrate special occasions & holidays a specific way, a way that causes you stress & costs you WAY too much money? Are you afraid to have a simple celebration, a celebration that allows YOU to enjoy yourself which in turn allows the whole family to enjoy themselves? I gave up worrying what people would think a long time ago. I gave it up right after I realized they were going to think whatever they wanted no matter what I did! Instead, I decided to do what works well for me & my family!
What works for you? Sometimes, we don’t even celebrate a birthday on the actual day! If everyone is busy, we spread the celebration out over several days. When it’s my birthday, I want the celebration to go on for days. Another good reason to keep it so simple it expectations. In the past, when I tried to create the “perfect” event, it never seemed to live up to my expectations. I always ended up disappointed. Tonight, I know our family is going to have a blast! And in a few weeks, we do it again for Katy’s birthday. And we’re going to have a blast then.
Next special event, give yourself a gift by keeping things simple enough that you can enjoy yourself. And if anyone complains, have them host the next special occasion! I find that quiets them down real fast!